United Match
Guidelines, principles, and halachic sources for the right path in matchmaking matters
Here you will find a careful anthology of halachot and customs relating to the matchmaking process, meetings, commitment, and building a home in Israel — drawn from reliable sources and qualified rabbis.
"Whoever has no wife lives without joy, without blessing, without goodness" — Yevamot 62b
One must verify lineage, character, and trustworthiness before entering a shidduch
Modesty in meetings and communication is the foundation for building a faithful Jewish home
Halacha corner
Jewish tradition sanctifies the marriage covenant as one of life's foundations. Here you will find a curated selection of halachot, customs, and guiding principles for the matchmaking path, wedding preparation, and building a Jewish home — from authoritative sources in clear, accessible language.
It is a positive mitzvah to seek a suitable partner with dignity and modesty. Both sides should examine value, family, and personality compatibility before deciding. Consulting a rabbi or qualified posek throughout the process is recommended, with careful boundaries of modesty at every stage of acquaintance.
Kiddushin is a Torah mitzvah and requires valid witnesses. The chuppah ceremony symbolizes the couple entering a sanctified partnership. Ensure the officiating rabbi is proficient in gittin and the full laws of kiddushin, and that the chuppah is conducted in a fitting and dignified manner.
The first year of marriage is defined as a "year of education" with special halachic significance. Observing family purity, shalom bayit, and mutual respect are pillars of the Jewish home. Investing in learning the halachot of married life is among the most important things for a young couple.
In-depth daily study of matchmaking halachot, modesty, and family — from a commitment to a dignified and precise Jewish way of life
A comprehensive halachic overview of the mitzvah of shidduchim, the parties' obligations, and proper conduct during acquaintance. Each stage includes references to primary sources.
Halacha in practice
Detailed guidance on modesty during acquaintance, including permitted meeting places, third-party presence, and limits on emotional attachment before the right time.
Modesty and relationships
Scholarly and practical halachic knowledge for marriage — from the laws of kiddushin and chuppah through yichud, sheva brachot, and the mitzvah of rejoicing with bride and groom.
Bride and groom
Halacha corner
How to preserve mutual respect, Jewish values, and genuine trust on the path to the chuppah
Halachically, it is permitted and even a mitzvah to become acquainted before marriage to ensure a genuine match. Phone calls and meetings with others present are accepted and encouraged. Avoid isolation and physical closeness that is inappropriate before marriage, in accordance with the laws of yichud and modesty.
There is no fixed number in halacha. Earlier generations emphasized that adequate acquaintance matters more than the number of meetings. Usually three to six meetings form a reasonable basis for a decision. The main point is that both sides feel confidence and clarity while maintaining modesty throughout.
A shidduch during acquaintance is not halachically binding. Both parties are free to end acquaintance at any time if there is no match. Still, mutual respect must be maintained and unnecessary hurt avoided. After formal engagement (erusin), halachic commitment is greater — consult a rabbi before any change.
Leading poskim in our generation have responded positively to dignified matchmaking platforms, provided they maintain modesty, privacy, and integrity. Using an organized, properly managed shidduch database is considered a legitimate and even blessed means of connecting suitable parties. United Match operates according to these principles.
Honoring parents requires involving them in the process, especially when agreeing to a shidduch. The final decision, however, belongs to the parties themselves, and parents cannot force a match. Open, respectful communication with family throughout is recommended, with rabbinic guidance if disputes arise.
The information in the halacha corner is general and intended for broadening knowledge only. It is not binding halachic ruling. For personal questions, please consult a qualified rabbi. At United Match we are happy to help and refer you to appropriate professionals — contact us.
Torah study
In-depth halachic articles and shiurim written by our rabbis on matchmaking, modesty, and building a Jewish home.
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